Distance Doesn’t Matter
Fall break in college is weird. Last year when I was a first year student it was nice to go home for the first time since coming to college, but sophomore year, when Clark is your home, and you pack up a suitcase for the weekend, it’s just a weird feeling. I didn’t want to leave Clark – being back and living in the real world is a lot different than being in college and making your own schedule, but I’m trying to enjoy it, especially since it is just a few days.
My brother is a junior in high school now, so like many of you, he is looking at colleges. I remember being in his shoes, so indecisive and unaware of what the future will hold. It’s difficult being in high school and trying to decide where you want to spend the next four years of your life, what you want to study, what kind of atmosphere you want to be around, and a myriad of other factors. It seems like so much to think about. I try to give him advice, but of course, I am a little partial to Clark and I would love to see him more, so I always tell to just come here. It would save a lot of time taking tours.
So the other day when my family picked me up from school, we drove into Boston to start looking at colleges for my brother. We took some tours…and since I am a tour guide at Clark (my dream job!), I took this opportunity to learn from guides at others schools. I saw some nice schools, don’t get me wrong, but I definitely learned what not to do on my own tours by changing my point of view. It was really cool to be on the other side of the table, seeing if I would want my brother, who I only want the best for, to attend the school. I saw how families reacted to different things that were said and answers to questions.
The next day I spent with my best friend from home. It was sooooo nice to see her since I rarely see her during the school year and I was away all summer. Sometimes a really important factor for people, when deciding where to go to college, is where their friends are going. I would have loved to be close to my friends, but deciding where to go to college is the beginning of a series of decisions that will affect your life. You should make these independently and not let others sway your decision.
My two best friends from high school both go to school pretty far away from me – Maggie in Montreal, Canada and Lexi in Virginia. I definitely don’t see them as much as I would like, but if someone is a true friend, it will work. When we first went to college, we would Skype all the time, but as we all became busier, that couldn’t happen as much. Still, anytime we can, we try to keep in touch. It isn’t like high school where you can catch up with your friends everyday in class or at lunch, but even with the distance and time apart, when we are together, it feels like nothing has changed.
When I saw Lexi this weekend, we still went to the same café that we ate all the time in high school, sang to the car radio, went shopping, and laughed at jokes that no one else would think are funny. College might make the distance between you and your friends greater, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t be there when you need them. So some advice for my brother, as he continues to look at colleges…Don’t go somewhere just because your friend or your crush at the time wants to go there, don’t listen to what other people say about a certain place, because if they visited and didn’t like it, that doesn’t mean that you will, too.
I’ll continue to give advice to my brother, Michael, as he goes through this process, and if you all have any questions that I can answer for you, I would be happy to, as well.
Have a great week!